Pere & Bess
Pere & Bess
Race of child interested in adopting: No Preference
Gender of child interested in adopting: No Preference
Family Type: Traditional Couple
State we live in: SD
Dear Expectant Mother,
We want to thank you for taking the time to consider us for adoption. We cannot imagine what you are going through, but we know that without you and your sacrifice, we would not be able to grow our family. We cannot express in words how much it would mean to us.
All of our neighbors have kids, and they all come to visit often. We are looking forward to having a child of our own to share in this fun. We cannot wait to teach your baby to swim, and we know we will be nervous (but proud!) the first time they go down the big slide by themselves. We look forward to watching them learn. For Pere, this starts with language and reading books in Spanish to put your baby to sleep. As they grow, Pere will cook traditional dishes and sweets with them. Bess can teach them to knit.
While we are looking forward to these fun parts of being a parent, we are also thinking about the challenges. We want to be sure that he or she knows we will always be there for them. We will hug them when they are sad, support them when they are frustrated, and encourage them through their failures as well as celebrate their victories. We will walk the path of life as one family. Again, we cannot begin to thank you enough for considering us. We hope this letter offers you even the smallest amount of help in making your choice.
We are both scientists, and when we met we discovered we were studying the same things! We share a love for science, jogging, spending time looking through shops, and cooking. Pere is Spanish and cooks dishes that remind him of the Mediterranean sea. Bess grew up in Minnesota, and her favorite place is her family’s cabin. We met in 2010, when we both had professional training attend. Over the next few years, we had to live apart occasionally (at one point, Pere was in Germany and Bess was in California). Through that time, we supported each other’s dreams, even when it was hard. In 2015, we were living together again, and we got married in Chicago. Now, we have jobs at the same university. While other couples often ask us how we can spend so much time together every day, for us, it is a dream come true.
We live in a small midwestern town, close enough to the high school to hear the marching band practicing! The town is a vibrant community with a very active library, outdoor pool, community theater, and sporting events at the university and high school. It has a quintessential main street that hosts live music every week and a farmer’s market. Life at our house involves gardening, updating our home, and spoiling our two cats, Hibiscus and Porkchop. Hibiscus is very sweet but very shy around new people at first. Porkchop is the opposite and loves attention from anyone who is willing to give it. Both of the cats are always happy to get treats.
Our Extended Family
Bess has a younger brother and a sister. Her biological mom passed away, so her large extended family has three parts, and all of her parents have seven or more siblings. One tradition of Bess’s is an egg roll on Easter. Each kid picks their favorite egg, and we’ll roll them down a wooden ramp. If two eggs collide and your egg breaks, you lose a quarter!
Pere’s family is smaller in size but very close to one another. His parents live in a small town in Spain, and we visit them as often as possible. Pere loves family reunions with lots of food, laughs, and love. His favorite Christmas tradition as a child was to await the arrival of a magic log, Tio de Nadal. If you feed it, it will bring presents on Christmas Eve. During the summers, his whole family camps, spending time walking in natural parks, swimming in creeks, and stargazing near campfires.
Both of our parents think the more grandchildren, the better! Telling them our commitment to adopt made them really happy. Bess’s parents went to Dairy Queen to celebrate, and Pere’s mom is already planning little things to sew.
What Led Us To Adoption
Bess’s mother passed away when she was six, and her father got remarried while she was still young. Because of this, Bess got to have two moms and learned from her step-mom that parental love is more than biology. When she met Pere, she found out that he has known for a long time that he wanted to have two kids, one biological and one adopted. Pere is an only child, but his parents considered adopting a second child for a long time. This idea grew on Pere, as he always felt that it would be one of the ways he wanted to become parent. We decided to adopt and have a biological child; no matter which comes first, both will be loved.