RJ & Cole
RJ & Cole
Race of child interested in adopting: No Preference
Gender of child interested in adopting: No Preference
State we live in: TX
Dear Expectant Mother,
We think you’re pretty amazing. You probably already know this about yourself, but we just want to reiterate this at this exact moment in your life, when you are eating for two, sleeping for two (which of course means sleeping less than one), and making tough decisions for two. We admire your extreme selflessness and bravery.
We are so excited to be at a point in our lives where we feel settled and financially secure enough to raise a child. We are so grateful that you are considering adoption for your precious baby. If you choose us as adoptive parents, we will raise your child with joy, compassion, love, and laughter. We want to see him or her grow and thrive. Without even meeting you, we know you want the same thing.
No two families are exactly alike, but every family shares certain elements in common. Families are all about connections, unbreakable bonds, and paths crossing and becoming intertwined forever. One of the reasons we feel adoption is so amazing is because you get to choose who you join on their path, and you can walk together with someone you never expected.
To quote a very wise man, Martin Luther King Jr., “Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” We are so proud and in awe of the leap of faith you are considering.
We met back in college, totally by chance. It all started with a hat. Cole, stylish as ever, was wearing the coolest hat to ever grace a head, and RJ wanted it. We negotiated a trade (one cool hat for a pair of cool shades) and have been in each other’s lives ever since. We’ve been together for over ten years and happily married for seven (and we still have the hat and sunglasses!). Cole is a science teacher at the charter school in our town (where both our nieces are students, and our brother-in-law is also a teacher). RJ is a marketing director for a global services organization. Both of us grew up in families where the heart of the home was the kitchen, so we love cooking big meals together, hanging out watching movies, and playing board games as a family!
We live in North Carolina. Cole was born and raised here and RJ was born in New York and came down for college. We recently took the plunge and became first-time homeowners. We purchased our first home in 2016. Our house is located in a new neighborhood full of families. There are lots of fun things to do and see here, whether it’s hiking through the woods, spending a day fishing at the lake, going to the dog park, or simply hanging out on the porch with iced teas, waving to our neighbors as they walk by (yes, it is the most Southern thing ever!).
We have two snuggly dogs named Parker and Finn. They are both Shepherd/Collie mixed, and we rescued them when they were just pups.
Our Extended Family
We both grew up in homes with a big emphasis on family, Cole with the big Southern family (welcome, y’all!), and RJ with the big Italian-American family (heya, goomba!). There are too many cousins to even count, so we’ll just stick with immediate family. Cole’s parents had three children, with Cole as the youngest child, growing up with two older sisters, both of whom have grown up into amazing moms with adorable children! RJ’s parents had three children and RJ is the oldest. He has a baby brother who is a senior in high school and a younger sister who is so close they often get mistaken for twins. His younger sister lives right down the street in the same neighborhood and has two beautiful little girls. We cannot imagine where we would be without our extended families loving us, supporting us, and celebrating life with us. We’re grateful for them always, especially when they visit. Weekends, holidays, and birthdays are always filled with laughter, games, and lots (and lots) of cooking together!
What Led Us To Adoption
We both grew up in loving households full of kids running around. Being part of a large family has always been an important part of both of our lives. As we grew up and our siblings started getting married and having children, we thought we couldn’t love anyone as much as we love our nieces and nephews.
Even when we were much younger, we always talked about having a family of our own. We took our time and researched all of the options available to us and decided together that adoption is the very best route for us. We are so excited to become parents and to share that love we feel for all our family with someone new and special.