Robert & Jay
Robert & Jay
Race of child interested in adopting: No Preference
Gender of child interested in adopting: No Preference
Family Type: LGBT
State we live in: PA
Dear Expectant Mother,
We are so grateful for you. Although we can’t possibly understand the emotional journey that brought us into your life, please know that we think you are the bravest person that we are ever likely to meet. The choice that you are considering is an incredible act of unconditional love, and we are so thankful to you for considering us in your adoption plan.
There is so much we hope to share with your child: our passion for cooking and traveling, our love of animals, and our interest in both sports and the arts. But most of all, we’re excited to share our values of compassion and kindness with your child. If you select us, it would be our privilege and our honor to help your child grow into the person they are meant to become, whether that’s a doctor, a chemist, a carpenter, a stay-at-home parent, or whatever else their future might hold. We promise to provide your child with a safe, stable home, and we will make sure that they have everything they need to be successful in the world. Your child will be raised in unconditional love, will be surrounded by laughter and support, and will know that your strength made our greatest dream come true.
Parenthood for us would be a wonderful, life-altering, precious gift, and we are so grateful to you for considering us on your adoption path. We can’t wait to meet you and take the next step on this journey together.
We both work to help others. Robert is a fundraiser at a nonprofit organization working to improve the lives of financially struggling families, people with disabilities, senior citizens, and children. Jay is a psychologist and professor at a local university. He uses neuroscience to study treatments for depression. We both love knowing that the work we do helps people to improve their lives. We have been in a committed, loving relationship since 2008 and were married in 2016. We genuinely love spending time together, whether that’s traveling to a different country or sitting on the couch watching a movie. Throughout the course of our 11-year relationship, we have found that a happy relationship is built on trust, support, communication, and honesty. Our interests include hiking with our dog, travel, exercise, trying new restaurants with friends, and playing board games with loved ones.
We fell in love with our home as soon as we saw it. It’s comfortable and bright with natural light, and we knew that it would be the perfect place to raise a family. We’ve created a warm and welcoming family room that’s our favorite room in the house. We live in a diverse neighborhood that has many family-friendly events (block parties, holiday celebrations, community film festivals). We can walk to a recreational area that includes a baseball field, a soccer field, and playgrounds. We are close with our neighbors, and there are several families with small children on our block. We also have very friendly pets—a cat named Memphis and a dog named Billie—and the neighborhood children love them!
Our Extended Family
Both of our families are excited for us to adopt! Jay has a brother and sister who each have two children, and Robert has two brothers, each with three children. We all gather as much as possible. In the summertime, Jay’s family goes to the coast of Maine and enjoys boat rides and lobster bakes. In the winter, they play board games and laugh together at Jay’s parents’ house. Robert’s family travels every year to New Orleans for music festivals and hosts crawfish boils every spring along the bayou. We can’t wait to introduce your child to these traditions!
As an interracial couple, we are blessed to be surrounded by a loving and diverse community of family and friends that support us and our dream of parenthood. In addition to our biological families, we have formed an extended family of close friends, many of whom have children of their own. In fact, we were honored when two of our close friends recently asked us to be godparents to their sons! We feel loved and supported by our “village” of family and friends, and we cannot wait to introduce a child into our world.
What Led Us To Adoption
Jay’s maternal grandmother was adopted at a very young age. That event not only changed her life but the lives of each generation that followed. She lived to be 92 years old, and she was the bedrock of the family. Jay would not be who he is or have had the opportunities that he did without the brave decision that his grandmother’s birth parents made. Two of our close friends were also adopted, so we have seen firsthand how adoption works and sincerely hope that we may experience this blessing as we seek to grow our family.