Tatum & Nathan
Tatum & Nathan
Race of child interested in adopting: No Preference
Gender of child interested in adopting: Girl
Family Type: Traditional Couple
State we live in: CA
Dear Expectant Mother,
We have no greater desire than to be parents and love a baby with all of our hearts. If you choose us as adoptive parents, we want your faith in us to bring you peace that your baby will be loved every single minute of every single day. Your story will be his or her story. Because Nathan will be the stay-at-home parent, he will have the joy of spending unlimited time with a child during the weekdays. Tatum will have a new office at home that will allow frequent time with the child throughout the day.
This is our biggest hope: that our adopted child will develop a passion for learning and hopefully find something he or she truly loves to do. We both taught ourselves how to play multiple instruments. Nate will want to share his love of music with our adopted child by exposing him or her to multiple genres and instruments to try out. Nathan is more of a goofy, laid back guy who loves playing games. He and Tatum both adore babies. We are sort of old school in that having Sunday afternoon board games and taking road trips are right up our alley. Saturdays at the beach are always fun. The beach is just a few blocks away, where kayaking, fishing, and surfing are popular. We are also excited to start new traditions, like weekly tea parties or sporting events. We love technology but make a point of putting our phones down regularly and talking. We live right near the coast, next to the harbor actually, and can walk to the beach where there are multiple paved trails with easy access for strollers, tricycles, Heelys, or simply walking with our family. We live a simple life in a small town on the coast near a huge metropolis of intellectual institutions and businesses.
Thank you for taking the time to get to know us and for considering us as adoptive parents.
Tatum is an educational consultant, which really means that she is a teacher that doesn’t work in a school (she has before). She started her own company that helps kids prepare for college and navigate college choices, scholarships, and applications. Nathan has worked in the automotive industry for his entire life; he did not go to college but started working at 15. He can diagnose anything on any car! He will be a stay-at-home Dad if we are blessed to adopt a child.
We have been married for 11.5 years and are total opposites! Tatum is high-energy while Nate is laid back and chill most of the time. We do balance each other out nicely. One of the things that made Tatum fall in love with Nathan is his heart and love for children and animals. He is incredibly patient, gentle, and calm.
We live on the coast of Northern California, south of San Francisco. There are a ton of things to do on any given weekend: the beach, surfing, kayaking, skiing, hiking, and local attractions like the Golden Gate Park or exploring San Francisco. The isolation of our neighborhood has created a very “small town” feel to our town.
We have one local high school, one middle school, four elementary schools, and two private schools for K-8. Nathan grew up here in the very home we live in, which he purchased in his early 20’s with his mom. To allow for more space, we are currently adding 600 square feet to our current 1,000 square foot home, which is one of the original cottages of our coastal town.
Our Extended Family
Nate’s mom lives with us and has since we got married. Initially, it was because it was affordable, but now it is because we truly love living with her. Tatum is extremely close to her mom as well, and she visits her in Florida twice a year - sometimes more. She is married to Tatum’s stepdad. Nathan has many members in his extended family: aunts, uncles, and cousins and most of them live within a few hours of us. We see them several times a year. His brother lives in Michigan with his wife and three kids. Last year, two of his boys came to stay with us for a week. It was great taking them to the children’s museum and all of the local attractions they wanted to visit. It made us even more excited about the possibility of doing activities with our own family.
What Led Us To Adoption
In some ways, we avoided a lot of the disappointment and struggles of infertility (IVF, etc.) because Tatum knew from the age of 19 that she would not be able to conceive due to severe Endometriosis that required several surgeries. We actually met later in life, in our 30’s, and Tatum told Nathan on the third date that she could not have children. She wanted to be 100% sure that his heart was as desirable for adoption as hers before going any farther. And it truly was.
We feel as though adopting a child is our biggest purpose in life. We want to be able to provide a loving, secure, safe place for a child to call home and to be surrounded by family and friends in our small community.