Tim & Daniel
Tim & Daniel
Race of child interested in adopting: Caucasian
Gender of child interested in adopting: No Preference
Family Type: LGBT
State we live in: CA
Dear Expectant Mother,
Thank you for taking the time to learn a little about us. We feel extremely fortunate to have grown our family once through adoption and would be overwhelmed with joy to do so again. We have the deepest respect and admiration for you in considering adoption. Your actions demonstrate great strength and deep love. Your child will always know of your selflessness and bravery.
We’re nervous, as we’re sure you are as well, but we can make some promises to you. We promise to provide a safe and loving home for your child. We promise unconditional love and unending patience. We promise to teach respect for nature and compassion for others. We promise to share dinner as a family every night. We also promise to provide opportunities for fun and learning, with trips to Disneyland and hikes through redwood forests. Above all, we promise to always be there as a family, even when things get tough.
Finally, we promise to teach your child to embrace his or her adoption story and to provide the opportunity for him or her to develop a meaningful relationship with you, whatever form that may take, should that be something you are wanting. We understand that we are here to support you, and we are happy to provide any additional information about ourselves.
We met twelve years ago and immediately knew that we wanted to spend our lives together. We enjoy being with each other, whether it’s making a new recipe, working in the back yard, or traveling to new places. Most recently we have enjoyed spending time with our three-year-old adopted son, Nicholas, visiting local farmers markets, nearby zoos, and the beach. Daniel is passionate about education and is the president of a local community college, but he’s also a kid at heart and loves all things Disney (we regularly go to both Disneyland and Disney World!) and geeky (sci-fi, comics, video games). Tim enjoys solving puzzles, playing strategy games, and working as a program manager with a major tech firm. As a former Marine, he is certainly strong but also very patient and kind and always makes our home a little bit happier with the best baked bread and goodies.
We live in a two-story house in a wonderful community with neighborhood barbecues, events in the park, and a Fourth of July parade. We live within blocks of parks, playgrounds, libraries, children’s museums, and a petting zoo. We are also just a short drive from both the ocean and the mountains. Most importantly, there are lots of diverse families and kids of all ages. Our pets are an important part of our home life, with three playful cats (Eva, Zoey, and Paedin) and a large, goofy dog (Tigger) providing lots of opportunities for additional playtime and love. We love the simple joys our neighborhood has to offer and often spend our evenings watching our three-year-old son run around in the back yard blowing bubbles and chasing Tigger.
Our Extended Family
We both come from loving and supportive families, with extended family all across the country, including Connecticut, where Tim grew up, and Florida, where Daniel grew up. Both sets of parents now live in Florida, which means we do a lot of FaceTime video chatting and regular visits to Walt Disney World. We truly enjoy staying adventurous and connected as a family. Some of the things we enjoy doing together are planning week-long beach trips, taking road trips, or taking a scenic cruise.
The holidays are a sacred time for us, and we always do all we can to have festive celebrations with lots of decorations, music, and food. For us, making the food together is as important as enjoying it. It’s an opportunity to spend quality time together and a chance to get back to the basics. We make everything from scratch and laugh and learn together.
Our family has recently grown with the addition of our adopted son. His birth family is part of our family now, and we talk and visit regularly. Further, we have made a “family” of friends and neighbors where we live, with regular gatherings and evenings of fun playing bocce and board games.
What Led Us To Adoption
As a same-sex couple, we knew early on that we would need to pursue alternative options to grow our family. Our main focus has always been the child: that he or she would be proud of who they are and where they come from. We read everything we could find, watched documentaries on children of adoption, and spoke with friends and neighbors who have adopted. We have made every effort to educate ourselves on the ins and outs of the adoption journey and feel well prepared as parents. We saw first hand the miracle of adoption as we had a wonderful experience adopting our first child, a bright and active little boy, and we are hopeful to add to our family once again.