Tim & Daniel
Tim & Daniel
Race of child interested in adopting: Caucasian
Gender of child interested in adopting: No Preference
Family Type: LGBT
State we live in: CA
Religion: Methodist (non-practicing)/Catholic (non practicing)
Dear Expectant Mother,
Thank you for taking time to learn a little about us. We feel extremely fortunate to have grown our family once through adoption, and would be overwhelmed with joy to do so again. We have the deepest respect and admiration for you in considering adoption. Your actions demonstrate great strength and deep love.
We’re nervous, as we’re sure you are as well. But we can make a promise to you. We promise to provide a safe and loving home to your child. We promise unconditional love and unending patience. We promise to teach respect for nature and compassion for others. We promise to share dinner as a family every night. We also promise to provide opportunities for fun and learning, with trips to Disneyland and hikes through redwood forests. Above all, we promise to always be there as a family, even when things get tough.
Finally, we promise to teach your child to embrace his or her adoption story and to provide the opportunity for him or her to develop a meaningful relationship with you, whatever form that may take. Please don’t hesitate to contact us anytime. We are happy to share anything you’d like to know, and we look forward to getting to know you as well.
We met twelve years ago, and immediately knew that we wanted to spend our lives together--we enjoy being with each other whether it’s something simple like making a new recipe or working in the backyard, or doing something more exciting such as traveling to new places or hiking Yosemite. With our adopted son now in our lives, we love visiting our local farmer’s market, heading out to one of the nearby zoos, spending the day at the beach, and getting outdoors every chance we get.
Daniel is passionate about education and is the President of a local community college—but he’s also a kid at heart and loves all things Disney (we regularly go to both Disneyland and Walt Disney World!) and geeky (sci-fi, comics, video-games). Tim enjoys solving puzzles and is a technophile, which explains his job as a Program Manager with a major tech firm and his love of genealogy and strategy games. Being a former Marine, Tim is certainly strong, but he’s also patient and kind and makes the home happier with the best home-baked bread and goodies.
We live in a two-story house in a wonderful storybook community with neighborhood barbecues, events in the park, and even our own Fourth of July parade. We live within blocks of neighborhood parks, playgrounds, libraries, children’s museums, plus a petting zoo, and are just a short drive from both the ocean and the mountains. Most importantly, there are lots of diverse families and kids of all ages so we know any child will always have a sense of belonging. Our pets are an important part of our home life with three playful cats and a large goofy dog providing lots of opportunities for additional playtime and love.
Our Extended Family
We both come from loving and supportive families with extended family all across the country, including Connecticut (where Tim grew up), Florida (where Daniel grew up), Texas, Delaware, North Carolina, and California. Both sets of parents now live in Florida, which means we do a lot of Facetime video chatting and regular visits to Walt Disney World (if we’re going to Florida, we have to go there too!). We always find something to do that gets us away from our TVs and phones—spending a week at the beach, going on a road trip, or taking a scenic cruise are just some of the things we’ll do.
The holidays are a sacred time for us and we always do all we can to have festive celebrations with lots of decorations, music, and food. For us, making the food together is as important as enjoying it—it’s an opportunity to spend quality time together and a chance to get back to the basics. We make everything from scratch and laugh and learn together.
Our family has recently grown with the addition of our adopted son, who was born in Iowa. His birth family are part of our family now and we talk and visit regularly. Further, we have made a “family’ of friends and neighbors where we live, with regular gatherings and evenings of fun playing bocce and board games.
What Led Us To Adoption
As a same-sex couple, we knew early on that we would need to pursue alternative options to grow our family. Our families were supportive of any approach we would take, and our focus was on the child: that he or she would be proud of who they are and where they come from. We read everything we could find, watched documentaries on children of adoption, and spoke with friends and neighbors who had adopted. We had a wonderful experience adopting our first child, a bright and active little boy, and are hopeful to add to our family once again through adoption.