Tom & Tulio
Tom & Tulio
Race of child interested in adopting: Caucasian, Caucasian/Hispanic, Hispanic or South/Central American
Gender of child interested in adopting: No Preference
Family Type: LGBT
State we live in: CA
Dear Expectant Mother,
We understand you want to choose what's best for your child, so we thank you for considering us as your child’s family as you make this difficult yet important decision to ensure the future of your baby.
The two of us met when we were young, and we have been together for 20 years since. After all these years, we continue to love each other deeply and be each other's rock. Together, we are already a family, but it is with this long-term, bedrock relationship that we have built a foundation on which to grow our family. We hope a child will soon join our family, where they will be raised in a loving, caring, and nurturing home.
We each come from close-knit families who are very supportive and eager to share in the joy of raising children. Our families instilled in us the importance of togetherness and helping each other out, and we will utilize that experience to raise children with the values of knowing right from wrong, empathy and respect for others, as well as the importance of confidence, independence, and happiness. We hope to get to know more about you, and you about us, and we can't wait to meet you to discuss the future.
Tom is an information technology specialist, and Tulio is a broker for industrial-scale food processing equipment. Tom's mother is from Ecuador and his father is of European descent. Tulio's parents are both from Mexico. We have been together for 20 years, domestic partners for ten years, and married for two years! We enjoy spending time together, whether it be trips around the world, quick weekend drives to nearby towns, hikes in local nature reserves, or just sitting at home talking and watching TV by the fire. Tom enjoys home improvement projects, and Tulio likes to get his hands dirty working in the garden. We’re happy to visit family and are always eager to host our nieces and nephews at our home for a weekend (or even longer!) during vacations from school.
We live in Northern California, surrounded by vineyards, dairy farms, and large nature reserves. The area is a popular weekend getaway for tourists looking for relaxation in an idyllic, country setting, and we’re lucky enough to live here year-round. We own our three-bedroom home in a quiet and safe neighborhood, with lots of families and children playing outside. The elementary school is just blocks away, and we have easy access to a nearby playground. We also live just a 40-minute drive away from the beach and just a few hours from the Sierra Mountains.
Our Extended Family
We have very large extended families spread throughout the United States, Ecuador, and Mexico, with multiple aunts, uncles, and cousins. Our parents, siblings, nieces, and nephews also live nearby, so we visit together regularly. Tom has one brother, a sister-in-law, a niece, and a nephew; and Tulio has a sister and brother, in-laws, and nine nieces and nephews.
Every year before Christmas, we enjoy the Mexican tradition of getting together and making tamales. We set up an assembly line around the table and everyone (kids and adults both) participate and spend quality time together. We celebrate Christmas Eve with Tulio's extended family, continuing the tradition of a late dinner, socializing, and then watching our nieces and nephews open their gifts at midnight. We celebrate Christmas Day with Tom's extended family, exchanging gifts and then sitting down to an early Christmas dinner. Every Easter, we gather for the Ecuadorian tradition of making fanesca, an Easter seafood stew.
It is with our regular visits, as well as these traditions, that we keep our close connections with our families. We will raise our own family to be an integral part of these traditions, ensuring they will also experience and treasure these close connections.
What Led Us To Adoption
We always planned to adopt. We have many friends who have gone through the adoption process, and one of our aunts adopted both of her daughters. We know from hearing of their experiences and witnessing their interactions how rewarding adoption is and the joy that comes from it. Our parents are excited for more grandkids, and we are thrilled to begin the journey to impart our own knowledge, values, and experiences with a child and to grow our family together.