Trey & Matthew
Trey & Matthew
Race of child interested in adopting: No Preference
Gender of child interested in adopting: No Preference
Family Type: LGBT
State we live in: TN
Dear Expectant Mother,
We want you to know how incredibly grateful we are that you are considering us to provide a loving and supportive environment for your baby.
We are excited to share our traditions, both those related to holidays as well as day-to-day activities. We want to walk Harper and her sibling to class on the first day, with each of us holding one of their little hands as they head into the best schools, with the best teachers and facilities, knowing the advantages they will get from their education will put them leaps and bounds ahead. We plan to be actively supportive through college applications and be available to help them buy their first home, meet their loving partner, and be gentle grandparents to their children.
We know our home is a warm, supportive, enriching environment for a child to grow up in, and we are incredibly blessed to even have the chance to give all our love and resources to your baby. We want nothing more than to be the very best parents. Thank you so much for considering us.
We are Matt and Trey, a loving couple living in Tennessee with our five-year-old adopted daughter, Harper. Caring for her gave our lives a more profound meaning and brought us closer together, and it also helped us expand our family in more ways than we had imagined which include yearly visits with her birth family. Matthew was born and raised in California, and he is now a registered nurse and clinical leader at a Level I trauma center. Trey was born and raised in Tennessee and is now a retired airline captain and stay-at-home dad. Our love story began online, back before dating apps existed. We found each other on Myspace in 2007 by bonding our shared love of In-N-Out Burgers. We spent the next six years falling in love and becoming best friends. A few months after adopting Harper in 2013, we celebrated our love and the creation of our family by getting married in the beautiful United States Botanic Garden.
Our historic home is beautiful, as is the neighborhood. We chose our community for the active cultural life and excellent public schools within walking distance. The neighborhood’s mature trees draw squirrels, chipmunks, deer, and even two groundhogs that share our backyard with many bunnies, which Harper loves. She is also adamant about being a mama to our two cats, Barbara and Beezer as well as her three goldfish. We can't wait to bring a new baby into our home and with us on our family outings.
Our Extended Family
Our quirky, loving, extended family are actively involved in Harper's life and over the moon for a new baby. Trey's mother, "Memaw," lives fifteen minutes away, and Matthew's mother, stepfather, and sister all live in our same neighborhood, which means we get to see them often.
Family traditions include getting doughnuts every Sunday, giving out Halloween candy, carving pumpkins, Chinese food on New Year's Eve, Easter Egg Hunts with Memaw, monkey bread on Christmas mornings, and our annual end-of-summer trip to South Carolina. Matthew also regularly reads the illustrated Harry Potter series to Harper. His infectious laugh keeps her smiling.
Growing up an only child, Trey missed having younger siblings and that, in part, inspired his passion for being a stay-at-home parent. Trey lives for Thanksgivings and looks forward to having those with his adult kids, and eventually their young families. In addition to our joyful excitement for adopting a new baby, we want Harper to enjoy that special sibling relationship, which means having her around children close to her own age.
Our Adoption Story
Adopting Harper gave us more joy than we can measure. Caring for her gave our lives a more profound meaning and brought us closer together, and it also helped us expand our family in more ways than we had imagined, since for her birthday we always visit her birth family. We are respected throughout our town as role models, as adoptive parents and as members of the LGBTQ community. The example of our happiness made a significant impression on Harper's godparents, Brad and Justin, who recently adopted their first child, Logan. We cannot wait to continue adding to our family and sharing our love and experiences with others.