Despite all the advances made in birth control and contraceptive technology over the years, pregnancy can still take you by surprise. There are numerous options for mothers who feel they may not be ready to raise a child on their own, including adoption. However, as you start considering adoption, you may have some questions.
If you’re considering adoption, asking an adoption agency questions like these is an important part of discovering if it’s right for you.
What if I change my mind about adoption?
While we may like to think that we know exactly what is right for us at a given moment, time may tell us that what we thought was best for us isn’t best anymore.
It’s natural to worry about changing your mind on placing your baby for adoption, but this is a serious matter that you need to discuss with the adoption agency and people close to you.
After your baby’s been born, there’s a certain amount of time that you have to change your mind and still gain custody of your child. Depending on your state of residence, the matter may go to court if that happens. Regardless, it’s important to hear about how the adoption agency handles these situations.
Can I see my baby after I give birth?
For many mothers, adoption is a choice that is both best for them and the child, but it can still be extremely difficult to let their child go. Many mothers want to see their child after birth and even throughout his or her life.
Usually, the answer to this question is yes. Open adoption is becoming more and more common, which means you will likely be able to maintain some communication with the adoptive family after your child’s adoption.
What happens after the adoption?
This is a great question to ask your adoption agency when you’re considering placing your baby for adoption. There are different resources available to birth mothers that vary on adoption agency and location. The adoptive family may be willing to get to know you as well and let you visit your child if you have an open adoption.
Adoption is a difficult decision to make, so it’s normal to have questions buzzing around your head as you weigh your options. Write them down so that you can ask the agent at the adoption agency when the time comes. You may want to ask:
How much do your services cost?
How do you find prospective adoptive families?
What type of support and services can you provide to me as I go through the journey of birth and placing my baby for adoption?
What is your availability?
How does your agency work with birthmothers before and after the adoption?
Most adoption agencies will work with you to gain a better understanding of how the adoption process works and want to be sure that the decision you make is in your best interests.