After experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, you have chosen domestic infant adoption as the next course of action. Among meetings with social workers, your adoption agency and taking the steps to maintain a healthy pregnancy, you will also need to start thinking about who will adopt your child. This can be an overwhelming process, as there are hundreds of families hoping for a child, but only a handful that will best meet your standards, and be able to provide the life you wish for your child.
While all birthparents want the best future for their child, many are unsure of what type of family they wish to place with.
Close your eyes and envision a day in your child’s life. What does he or see when she wakes up in the morning and looks out the bedroom window? Skyscrapers? A beach? Houses? A farm? Who is there to greet them when they go to the kitchen? A mother and a father? Extended family? Brothers and sisters? What about pets? Try to imagine your child’s life 18-20 years from now. What are they doing? Are they attending college, traveling the world, or helping out the family business?
Finding out you are pregnant when you were not planning to have a child can be a frightening experience. As reality sets in, you will have many decisions to make when planning a future for you and your child. Take a deep breath - you have options. If you are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy and think adoption may be your best option, carefully consider what it really means and the steps it takes to complete the adoption process. In the end, you may find out that adoption may or may not be the best choice.
So why do birthparents choose adoption, anyway? Birthparents place their children for adoption for any number of reasons. Perhaps you do not have the financial resources to care for yourself and a child. Maybe you already have children and cannot afford to properly raise another. Perhaps your relationship with the birth father is not stable, safe or healthy. Whatever your reason for placing may be, adoption is a huge life decision, and should be treated with careful thought and consideration.
In the early days of adoption, Dear Birth Mother letters were single-page biographies. Today, the competition has heated up, and the number of prospective parents continues to grow. Recent studies show that for every newborn, there are nearly forty adoptive parents searching. Every type of family you can imagine is hoping for a child —married, unmarried, LGBT couples, and single individuals.
So, how do you write the Dear Birth Mother letter that will enchant the right birthmother for you? For starters, be confident and honest. If adoption is your dream, you will find out very quickly that the words will start flowing once you begin. At LifeLong Adoptions, we want you to be happy with your Dear Birth Mother letter. When writing yours, be sure to use these five necessary tips.
According to the Centers of Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) nearly 4 million women give birth each year. Out of those 4 million, nearly one third of them will have some kind of pregnancy related complication. While some complications occur from actions that are out of the mother’s control, many happen simply because the mother is unaware of the type of care she needs. If you are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, it’s important that you learn how to properly care for yourself and your child before and after delivery.