Derek & Brent
Derek & Brent
Race of child interested in adopting: No Preference
Gender of child interested in adopting: No Preference
Family Type: LGBT
State we live in: GA
Religion: Non-Denominational Christian
Dear Expectant Mother,
We know we’d never experience the joy, challenges, and rewards of having a child without the kindness, courage, and selflessness of just one person: you. While we want to bring all of our own life experiences and the love of our respective families to our child, and to see our personalities reflected in him or her over time, we know and embrace that there will always be, at their core, a beautiful piece of you as well, whether it be in their smile, the way they scrunch their nose when they laugh, their natural talents, or their kindness toward others.
We want your child to know that we love them, unconditionally, and that someone else loved them before we ever knew them; enough so to tirelessly work to make sure he or she had a family who reflected her love without fail. That generosity is something passed down from a mother to a child, and we want to cultivate and make sure he or she remembers that their life started with a gift and should be shown to others with pride. Most of all, we want you to know that your gift to us is the greatest we could possibly ask for, and we take our responsibility to give your child a loving, happy, exciting, and unforgettable journey to adulthood with joy and excitement.
Our love for each other and our marriage have endured as strongly as they have mainly because we hold two values together above all else: respect and loyalty. We’ve learned that as long as we hold those values, nothing outside of our relationship, whether it be work, conflict, or other distractions, can destroy what we have. We recognize that neither of us is above making mistakes in what we say or actions that we take, but even in conflict, we both ultimately want to understand the other’s point of view. It has meant that our love for each other exists because we want it to, and not because we see it as necessary or convenient to any other considerations. Our careers, while completely different as a trial lawyer and a stylist, are a collaboration between us and are meant to continuously improve our lives together and as a family.
Our home is where we love to be most, and we put our hearts and souls into making it everything we wanted for our family and friends when we bought and renovated the one-hundred-year-old bungalow last year. It’s a kid’s dreamhouse: there are more twists and turns and hidden rooms than any child could imagine, and we decorated to the hilt for Christmas this year. Our neighborhood is full of families of all walks of life, incomes, and careers, and there are other kids everywhere. We have three dogs: two sweet mutts we adopted from the shelter and a tiny Boston Terrier/French Bulldog mix who thinks she runs the roost.
Our Extended Family
We try hard to split time as evenly as we can with our families throughout the year and on holidays. One exception is Christmas, when we go to Alabama to be with Brent’s family every year. Christmas there is all family, all the time. There are more kids than we can count, and they get all of the attention! We can’t wait for our kids to open the mountains of presents they’ll get from the grandparents at Christmas. It’s a tradition to let them open theirs first so we can film them tear each one open and toss it to the side for the next one.
We take trips with our families every year, and always at least one to the Florida Gulf Coast, where the kids run the show, whether it be chasing sand crabs on the beach at night, go-karts, or just cartoons on the couch. No matter what we do with our families, the children are always front and center, and we can’t wait for our kids to experience that love and attention. Our families are each thrilled to be welcoming another baby into the fold and to share the suppers, vacations, and quiet times together with us.
What Led Us To Adoption
We have been excited to adopt for years, and we spent the last two making sure our home and businesses were settled before we brought a child into our lives. We have close bonds with our nephews and nieces, but knew that we wanted the joys and challenges of raising our own children together. We’ve seen the gift of adoption firsthand in our family, as two of our cousins were adopted through foster care. The love and connection between those two girls and their parents reaffirmed our commitment to adopting and helped us become confident that we can raise our children to be happy and kind.