Fred & Will
Fred & Will
Race of child interested in adopting: Caucasian
Gender of child interested in adopting: No Preference
Family Type: LGBT
State we live in: IL
Religion: Christian (Episcopal)
Dear Expectant Mother,
We are very excited that you might select us as the new parents for your child, and yet our hearts go out to you having to make this difficult decision. We imagine there will always be some sadness for you around this choice, as it is not an easy one to make. And we also hope there will always be deep joy for you in the gift you will give to parents who cannot have a child of their own. Whoever you choose is very lucky to have the chance at being parents and beginning a new chapter of their lives. You carry an amazing gift inside you.
It took us a long time to feel ready for a child. We were waiting for careers to settle down, for the finances to line up, and to be settled in a good home. Even once those things were in place, we still weren’t ready until we called Lifelong Adoptions and started talking about how we would be selected by a birth mother, get to meet you, and get to greet a new baby in the hospital as soon as she or he was born. Growing up gay, we never thought we could have that experience. After talking with Mark Doyle at Lifelong, we realized it was possible and we knew we were ready. All our concerns fell away, and the planning and preparation naturally came together. We know that the child who finds us will be surrounded by love, support and become a very special person - just like you. Thank you for considering us as a potential recipient of your gift. We hope to meet you in person, and share our love with you as well.
Fred grew up on a farm in Missouri and is now a licensed architect. He recently completed the renovation of a local children’s museum, completed his second triathlon, and also loves to watch movies and bake cookies. Will grew up in the woods of Pennsylvania and is now studying to be a priest after a career as a professional singer. He currently works as the director for children’s ministries at their church. The couple met through a mutual friend at a Christmas costume party in 2004. Will arrived dressed as a wiseman, and Fred was hosting the party dressed as Joseph. Their wedding ceremony took place at their church in 2008, before marriage was legal, and in 2013 they were officially married in San Francisco. Together they love to travel, ride bikes, relax on the beach, visit art galleries and museums, attend concerts, theater and dance performances, and they seem to always be working on projects around the house.
Fred and Will currently live in a 3rd floor apartment attached to the church where Will works. The church is nestled in a historic neighborhood near downtown, and just a few minute’s walk from the lakefront, beaches, park, and zoo. The church is an anchoring community for them and includes vibrant children’s opportunities, a gym, and nursery. Also part of the church complex is a preschool just a few floors below their apartment. The apartment is bigger than they need, has a large guestroom for visiting family, and a lovely study that they can’t wait to turn into a nursery. Fred and Will share their apartment with two cats, Slinky and Scout who are well behaved and very soft!
Our Extended Family
Fred and Will both come from incredibly supportive and loving families. Fred was surrounded with family growing up on a dairy farm. His grandmother, two uncles, aunt and cousins lived across the dirt road where he grew up. Now his 3 older sisters have vibrant careers, with 6 children between them (ages range between 3-16). His parents are retired and love hosting the grandkids/cousins for creative activities like plays, pirate parties, science camps, and art activities. There is never a dull moment in the Grier household.
Will grew up in the Philadelphia Suburbs as one of 10 cousins on his Mom’s side. The family is very close and has a long tradition of holidays together, eating special foods (crab dip, beef fillet, lobster) and singing Christmas carols around the piano. His older brother is married with two kids and is part of the family business as an investment advisor. His mother shares an office with them, as an independent psychotherapist. Will’s dad is French and immigrated to the US when he met Will’s mother in the 1970s in Bermuda (fairy tale story). Will has deep connections to cousins, aunts, and uncles in France; both he and Fred have visited France often, and Will is a dual French citizen himself.
What Led Us To Adoption
Fred and Will have been considering adoption for over 8 years, but careers and geography have prevented the opportunity until now. Since meeting 14 years ago, they have enjoyed exploring different careers, and even moved to London for three years for Will’s music career. However, the couple has felt that something was missing from their family. They love each other very much, but desire to share their love and the gifts bestowed on them. Fred and Will came to see that their love could find rest only in growing their family with children. They are now settled in a community they’ve known for 11 years and ready to welcome a child into their lives.