Race of child interested in adopting: Asian, Caucasian, Caucasian/Asian, Caucasian/Hispanic, Caucasian/Native American, Hispanic or South/Central American
Gender of child interested in adopting: No Preference
State I live in: MO
Dear Expectant Mother,
As you can see, I am willing and open to share my story with you. I believe that everyone has one and I cannot wait to hear yours. I do not know what brought you here, or where life will take you but I know that life is full of surprises and sometimes our greatest fears become our greatest adventures, or our deepest pains can bring the greatest joy. Your story will be a great one, and if you were to choose me to raise your child it would give me great joy to write them into the pages of my book - your legacy.
I realize that you must have gathered great courage and selflessness to consider adoption. This unusual crossroad is where we meet, complete strangers, and form a new road together. Everyone handles challenges in their life a little differently and I can’t pretend to know what you may be going through as you consider an adoption plan, but I hope I can bring my support to you in any way that you desire.
A friend recently told me “you are one of the most capable people I know.” My Mom handed down that particular skill and my Dad handed down his entrepreneurial spirit, those combined together led me to start my own marketing analytics company over 10 years ago. One of the best perks of my job is that I get to travel the world, a huge passion of mine. Anywhere warm with a beach leads me to immediately jump in, play in the waves and boogie board. Out of the water, I’ll participate in just about any sport, but the only one I am good enough to get invited back to play on a regular basis is tennis!
A few years ago, I took the long way back to the office after lunch and I came across this amazing piece of property, up on a hill, overlooking downtown with a waterfall, pond and park right below it. Turns out I couldn’t have picked a better neighborhood to build my house: one of my neighbors is a high school classmate, almost everyone has young children, pools in their backyards, in one of the top school districts in the state, and the street ends in a cul-de-sac. The craziest part of my house currently are my two rescue cats, Tiger and Lilly. They wait all morning for me to finish my workout and lay down my yoga mat, then they run over to do yoga with me. Mostly they try to hog the yoga mat, stick their butts in my face and lay on the yoga strap when I need it, but it is their favorite part of the day, and a great way to start mine.
My Extended Family
“Spot” was a game my brother and I made up as kids on the long drive out to Denver to visit my cousins. Well, calling it a game may be aggressive as it involved only a mirror and the sun, and I’m not sure there was a winner, but we still had a ton of fun. My brother and I were close growing up and remain close today, although now my role has transformed from older sis to “Aunt Shel” to his three young kids. My parents, my brother, his wife and their children love our annual trip to the beach in California, where the kids insist on getting in the ocean no matter how cold it is! I wear a lot of hats that provide me many titles in my life, but Aunt Shel has to be one of the most rewarding (and fun!). Not only do I get to enjoy this role with my brother’s kids, but am also Aunt Shel to my friends’ children, whom I have had the privilege of watching grow over the years. It’s not just a title however, we are huge parts of each other’s lives. We vacation together, have game night together, dress up for halloween together, support each other at our sporting events, award ceremonies and dance recitals.
For my next hat, I am ready to wear the title of “Mom.” I could talk about all the ways I’m going to be a great mother, but I believe testimonials from others is even more powerful than me rambling on about myself. When it came time for my brother and his wife to choose a guardian for their three children, they chose me. Maybe not much of a surprise, as I am family, however my sister-in-law also has two siblings, one of which is married with children of her own, which most would feel is a more logical choice. But the connection I have with their kids, their confidence in my ability to raise them, support them and ensure they flourish in life made me their first choice. Similarly, my close friend and her husband have also chosen me as guardian for their child. They both have married siblings who they could have asked to take on this role, but they felt I was a better fit. I feel so honored that both of these couples have chosen me to be the one that takes over the role of parent should they not be able to, and I feel that their independent choices are two undeniable votes in the “yes” column that I will be a great Mom.
What Led Me To Adoption
Adoption has touched my life in many ways, from my adopted family members, to friends with adopted children, to friends that are from adopted families, to other friends that selected adoption for their children. As I thought about the kind of family I want to be a part of, providing a nurturing, safe, loving home for a child far outweighed the desire to ensure my child has my specific genes. Having so much personal history with adoption, I decided that it is the best choice to build my family.