dear expectant mother

Hello,

We’re so glad you’ve found your way to our profile! We know you’ve probably read many of these already, so we want to share who we are and what we hope for in an honest and heartfelt way.

We’re Mare and Clay, both 30 years old and living in a community we love. Those who know us best describe us as responsible, compassionate, intelligent, and witty—qualities we hope to bring to parenting every day.

Becoming parents has always been our dream, and for us, it’s never been about sharing DNA. Over the past three years, we’ve fostered seven children, from toddlers to preteens. While fostering has been deeply rewarding, the system can also be challenging, which is why we’ve chosen to pursue private adoption.

We’re open to whatever level of contact you feel comfortable with—open, semi-open, or closed. Ideally, we’d love to exchange letters or messages a couple of times a year, around birthdays and milestones, but we fully respect your wishes, whatever they may be.
Our promise to any child in our home is simple: we will raise them to be kind, confident, and curious. We will support them through challenges, celebrate their victories, and create a home full of love, laughter, and acceptance.

We also value diversity and representation. As a white couple, we intentionally seek out schools, communities, and friendships with people of different races, cultures, and abilities, so our children see their identities reflected, honored, and celebrated.

Thank you for getting to know us!