Making the decision to place your child up for adoption is a challenging one. You want to provide the best life possible for your child. However, you don't know if placement is the right choice. Often times, this dissonance leaves many birthmothers feeling insecure about their decision.
In order to cope with their decision, many women find comfort in the experiences of others. Within their stories are small quotes or affirmations, designed to give birthmothers the peace they need to continue their everyday lives.
If you're a birthmother who needs solace regarding placement, consider these beautiful quotes and affirmations designed to give you peace of mind.
Quotes for Birthmothers
“A birthmother puts the needs of her child above the wants of her heart.”
- Skye Hardwick
"We should not be asking who this child belongs to, but who belongs to this child.”
- Jim Gritter
“If a mother and father can love more than one child then why is it so hard to understand that a child can love more than one mother and father?”
“If you love someone unconditionally and with your whole heart, then you will do what is best for them, not you. I have never learned a harder lesson than giving my child up for adoption, and I probably never will.”
“I once heard a girl who had decided to parent her child say, “My baby’s the best thing that ever happened to me.” I believed her. But I wanted to ask, “Are you the best thing that could’ve happened to your baby?”…Had I loved (my son) any less—one ounce less—he would be with me now! My love for him was the only thing that could enable me to break my own heart. I didn’t just feel love; I did what love dictated.”
“I felt more love for my baby than I had ever experienced before. But I found that the more I loved him, the more I wanted to find out what would be best for him throughout his entire life. The things I wanted most for him (a stable family with a mother and father, a home to live in, a mother who could stay at home with him, financial security, etc.) were things I could not provide. So it was because I loved him so much that I chose adoption.”
“It has been said that adoption is more like a marriage than a birth: two (or more) individuals, each with their own unique mix of needs, patterns, and genetic history, coming together with love, hope, and commitment for a joint future. You become a family not because you share the same genes, but because you share love for each other.”
- Joan McNamara
“Family isn’t always blood. It’s the people in your life who want you in theirs; the ones who accept you for who you are. The ones who would do anything to see you smile, and who love you no matter what.”
These firsthand quotes and affirmations are designed for birthmothers, like yourself, to receive the comfort needed to stand firm in their decision. Considering these quotes and affirmations on a consistent basis may help you feel at peace with whatever decision you come to.