Too anxious to even start writing your adoptive family profile? The task involves describing your situation to a complete stranger without even meeting them, so there is a lot to think about. A birthmother reads quite a few profiles before deciding on one that's right for her family. This means you need to make yours stand out. What can you do to accomplish that? Well, you will do a big part of the job simply by making sure to answer the following questions!
1. How do you imagine spending time with your child?
Every birthmother wants a caring family that can provide things she may not able to. Write about or include some photos of your favorite activities in your adoptive family profile. Instead of simply describing things you do, mention how you would involve your child in your favorite activities and your daily routine. Also, mention some of the places you would like to visit with your child, as well as new activities you would do together.
2. What is the situation with the rest of your family?
Birthmothers will want to know if an adoptive family has close friends or relatives who have young children. A big advantage for you is to write something about, for example, your niece or nephew and how you enjoy spending time with him or her. Include some photos of moments you have spent together in your profile. If you already have children, definitely do include some family photos. Don’t forget your fur-babies — pets are part of your family too, and you should definitely mention them and include pictures.
3. What are you like as a person?
A birthmother is choosing the parents for her child, so an important part of your profile should be a description of your personality. She wants to know what led you to adoption, why you want to be parents, how you two plan to work as a team, how you met, etc. But make sure that romantic spark in your profile doesn't go overboard. This way you can say more about what type of people you and your partner are. Be honest and open about who you are, but include every element, from humorous to romantic, carefully in your profile.
4. Can you support and care for a child?
And last but not least, you will want to answer one of the first questions the birthmother might have concerning you and your family - are you financially capable of supporting another human being? This should include not only taking care of food and clothes, but making sure the child has a future as well. In order to answer the question, you can simply explain your situation in a sentence or two, or include a couple of photos of your house or apartment.
Remember that an adoptive family profile is the first impression of who you are to a birthmother, so put your heart and soul into it!